THE “I AM” SERIES – ARE YOU YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND OR WORST ENEMY?

TODAY IS THE THIRD PART IN THE “I AM” SERIES AND WE ARE GOING TO DEAL WITH ARE YOU YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND OR WORST ENEMY?

FIRST OF ALL WHO IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR WORLD? SOME PEOPLE SAY IT IS MY CHILDREN OR MY HUSBAND OR ITS MY FAMILY BUT THE REAL AND TRUE ANSWER SHOULD ALWAYS BE – IT IS ME.

THIS IS NOT BECAUSE OF BEING SELFISH BUT IT IS FROM RECOGNIZING THAT WITHOUT YOU, YOU HAVE NO WORLD SO THAT IS WHY YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR OWN WORLD. YOU HAVE TO TREAT YOURSELF AS IF YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON AND OF COURSE THAT DOESN’T MEAN TO THE EXCLUSION OF ALL ELSE – IT DOESN’T MEAN IN A NARCISSISTIC OR SELFISH WAY – IT MEANS IN A SELF RESPECTING AND SELF HONORING WAY IN WHICH YOU RECOGNIZE THAT YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS YOURSELF.

YOU RECOGNIZE THAT YOU NEED TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF THE CHOICES YOU MAKE AND THE WAY YOU WORK WITH YOUR WORLD. IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU INNER DIALOGUE WHEN YOU ARE DEALING WITH YOURSELF AND SPEAKING WITH YOURSELF IS A LOVING DIALOGUE. IS ONE BASED IN CARE AND INTEREST AND RECOGNIZER YOUR OWN IMPORTANCE AND SIGNIFICANCE IN YOUR OWN WORLD.

THAT YOU TREAT YOURSELF KINDLY AND LOVINGLY AND GENTLY BECAUSE IF WE ARE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY AND TREAT OURSELVES HARSHLY AND BRUTALLY AND CRUELLY OR BULLY OURSELVES, THIS CREATES ANXIETY AND FEAR IN OUR WORLD AND TAKES AWAY ANY POTENTIAL JOY THAT WE COULD FEEL BECAUSE WE HAVE THIS INNER TOXIC VOICE THAT IS UNKIND AND TREATS US IN A DISRESPECTFUL AND DISHONORING WAY.

SOMETIMES THAT VOICE CAN SIMPLY BE THE ECHOE OF ANOTHER VOICE IT COULD BE THE ECHOE OF YOUR MOTHER’S VOICE OR THE ECHOE OF YOUR FATHER’S VOICE THAT USED TO SOUND CRITICAL OR JUDGMENTAL OR DEGRADING OR DEMEANING OR INVALIDATING SO THERE ARE MANY REASONS WHY WE COULD HAVE THIS INNER DIALOGUE THAT IS TOXIC BUT WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT WE HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THIS TOXIC DIALOGUE AND DISCONNECT FROM THE ECHOE OF OLD VOICES AND OLD EXPECTATIONS AND PROJECTIONS THAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN FOISTED UPON US OR PRESCRIBED TO US AS WE WERE GROWING UP AND WE NEED TO LISTEN FOR AND RESPOND TO OUR OWN INNER VOICE.

IF OUR OWN INNER VOICE IS ACTUALLY NEGATIVE AND TOXIC WE NEED TO ADDRESS THAT AND ASK OURSELVES WHY WE ARE BEING SO UNKIND TO OURSELVES AND WHY DO WE TREAT OURSELVES WITH SUCH A LACK OF LOVE? FIND OUT WHAT IT IS AND THEN DETERMINE WITHIN YOURSELF AND MAKE A DECLARATION TO YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE GOING TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF IN A WAY THAT IS RESPECTFUL AND IN A WAY THAT IS LOVING AND CARING AND KIND AS IF YOU WERE YOUR BEST FRIEND.

TRY TO SAY THINGS TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WOULD SAY TO YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. WHEN YOU HAVE THAT INNER DIALOGUE THAT IS HEALTHY, CARING, UPLIFTING AND ENCOURAGING AND INSPIRING OUR WHOLE WORLD FEELS REALLY DIFFERENT. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO LISTEN OUT FOR AND BE MINDFUL OF AND CONSCIOUS OF WHAT YOU ARE SAYING TO YOURSELF – WHAT MESSAGES YOU ARE GIVING TO YOURSELF.

I HAD SOMEBODY COMING INTO MY CLINIC RECENTLY AND SHE WAS REALLY UPSET WITH HERSELF AND VERY UNHAPPY WITH HERSELF BECAUSE SHE WEIGHED 5 KILOS MORE THAN SHE WANTED TO WEIGH. I NEEDED TO POINT OUT TO HER THAT THE DIFFERNCE BETWEEN HAPPINESS AND UNHAPPINESS TO HER WAS JUST 5 KILOS AND IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT LOGICALLY IT DOESN’T MAKE MUCH SENSE.

WHY WOULD WE BERATE OURSELVES, BE UNKIND TO OURSELVES AND PUNISH OURSELVES AND CRITICAL AND JUDGEMENTAL OF OURSELVES BECAUSE OF A MERE 5 KILOGRAMS? IT CAN BE SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS THAT WHICH CAN INTERFERE WITH THE HEALTHINESS OR WELLNESS BETWEEN THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN “I AM” AND THIS OF COURSE IS GOING TO INFLUENCE HOW YOU AFFECT YOUR WORLD BECAUSE IF YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF, YOU WILL BE HAPPY WITH YOUR WORLD.

IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY WITH YOURSELF YOU ARE GOING TO BE PUTTING OUT NEGATIVE VIBES AND YOU ARE GOING TO BE DRAWING INTO YOUR EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE PEOPLE, NEGATIVE SITUATIONS AND NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES. IT IS THEREFORE VITAL THAT YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF AND HAVE THIS REALLY KIND AND GENEROUS AND GENTLE INNER DIALOGUE THAT YOU CAN ATTRACT INTO YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES THINGS THAT YOU REALLY WANT – THINGS THAT ARE GOING TO MAKE YOU FEEL THAT LIFE IS A HAPPY SPACE AND I LOVE LIVING LIFE.

SO IF YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS LITTLE VIDEO WHICH IS ONE OF THREE IN THE SERIES WHICH COVER DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF THE “I AM” AND WE ARE GOING TO DO MORE AFTER THIS, PLEASE JUST LIKE AND SHARE THIS. YOU NEVER KNOW THERE MAY BE SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT JUST NEEDS TO HEAR SOMETHING THAT WILL RESONATE WITH THEM AND HELP THEM TO SEEE THEMSELVES A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY AND SEE THEIR WORLD A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY AND PERHAPS FEEL BETTER WITHIN THEMSELVES WHICH IS WHAT WE ARE TRYING TO HELP TO ACHIEVE HERE IS TO HELP PEOPLE TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES AND ABOUT THEIR LIFE IN GENERAL.