NO. 9 IN THE “I AM” SERIES – IN A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP

TODAY I’M COVERING THE TOPIC OF THE “I AM” IN A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP. PEOPLE OFTEN FIND THEMSELVES IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO IS A NARCISSIST WHETHER WITH A PARENT, SIBLING, BUSINESS COLLEAGUE OR EVEN PARTNER AND WHAT THIS DOES TO THE PERSON IN THIS NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP IS THAT IT ERODES INTO THEIR OWN SELF ESTEEM, INTO THEIR OWN WELLBEING AND INTO THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR OWN “I AM” AND THIS IS WHY IT IS A VERY UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TO BE IN.

NARCISSISM CAN COME IN MANY DIFFERENT FORMATS OR FREQUENCIES AND PRESENTS IN MANY DIFFERENT INSIDIOUS FORMS AND ULTIMATELY IT IS VARIOUS FORMS OF ATTACK WHETHER THROUGH DEGRADATION, DISMISSAL, UNDERMINING, MANIPULATION, COERSION, GUILTING OR SHAMING THE PERSON. THERE ARE MANY DIFFERENT WAYS IN WHICH IT CAN PRESENT ITSELF.

IN THE SITUATION WITH A PARENT FOR INSTANCE AS A CHILD WE CAN BE GROOMED BY THE PARENT TO REACT IN A CERTAIN WAY TO BEING GUILTED OR MANIPULATED BY THE PARENT TO GET WHAT THEY WANT OUT OF THE CHILD. IN A RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOU ARE IN A PARTNERSHIP OR MARRIAGE WITH A NARCISSIST IT CAN PRESENT ITSELF IN DIFFERENT WAYS COMING FROM THE NARCISSIST WHO FEELS ENTITLED AND HAS A VERY STRONG OPINION OF THEMSELVES AND WHO IS MANIPULATIVE AND HAS NO EMPATHY FOR THE PERSON BEING ATTACKED THEY SOMEHOW FIND PLEASURE FROM THE PAIN OF THE VICTIM OR THE PERSON WHO IS UNDER ATTACK.

IT IS IMPORTANT TO RECOGNIZE THAT THERE IS SOMETHING IN THIS FOR THEM AND THEY NEVER TAKE RESPONSIBILITY BECAUSE THEY DO NOT RECOGNIZE THE ROLE THAT THEY ARE PLAYING.

THEY WILL NOT TAKE ANY RESPONSIBILITY FOR BLAME FOR INSTANCE IF THERE IS SOMETHING THAT HAS HAPPENED THAT THEY HAVE DONE WRONG OR A SITUATION THAT IS PRESENTING THAT IS NEGATIVE THEY LOVE TO SHIFT THE BLAME.

THEY ALSO USE GASLIGHTING WHICH IS A FORM OF ATTACK BUT CREATES DOUBT IN THE PERSON THAT IS BEING ATTACKED. IT MAKES THE PERSON DOUBT THEMSELVES BECAUSE THE NARCISSIST WILL ACCUSE YOU OF SAYING SOMETHING YOU KNOW THAT YOU NEVER SAID OR DOING SOMETHING THAT YOU KNOW YOU NEVER DID OR ACCUSING YOU OF NOT DOING SOMETHING YOU KNOW THAT YOU HAVE DONE OR SHOULD HAVE DONE BUT ACTUALLY DONE IT BUT GET TOLD YOU NEVER DID IT.

OR GET ACCUSED OF NOT SAYING SOMETHING YOU NOW THAT YOU HAVE SAID AND THEY SAY YOU NEVER SAID IT. WHAT IT ULTIMATELY DOES IS MAKE YOU DOUBT YOURSELF AND QUESTION YOUR OWN SANITY IN A WAY BECAUSE YOU ARE BEING ACCUSED OF THINGS THAT HAVE OR HAVEN’T TAKEN PLACE WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE INNOCENT. WHEN DONE SUFFICIENTLY OFTEN ENOUGH IT MAKES YOU DOUBT YOUR OWN RECALL AND MEMORY OF THINGS AND IS ANOTHER FORM OF UNDERMINING YOU AS A PERSON.

A NARCISSIST HAS A CRUEL STREAK OF SADISM AND THEY GET PLEASURE FROM YOUR PAIN AND THE BEST WAY OF HANDLING THIS IS TAKING THE ANALOGY OF A DOORBELL AND TAKING THE BATTERY OUT OF THE DOORBELL, YOU CAN PRESS IT AS MUCH AS YOU LIKE BUT THERE IS GOING TO BE NO RESPONSE FROM THE DOORBELL.

THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE THIS FORM OF NARCISSISTIC ATTACK WHEN YOU ARE CONSCIOUS OF IT, IS TO HAVE A NEUTRAL RESPONSE TO IT SO WHEN THE PERSON ATTACKING YOU NO LONGER GETS THE DESIRED RESPONSE OR THE RESPONSE THEY HAVE BEEN USED TO GETTING THEY WILL CHANGE THEIR TACTIC OR REALISE THAT WHAT THEY ARE DOING IS TO NO AVAIL.

I HOPE YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS LITTLE VIDEO AND IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU MAY NEED SOME HELP PLEASE FEEL FREE TO PRIVATE MESSAGE ME OR CONTACT ME VIA MY WEBSITE WHICH IS WELLNESSONSTEROIDS.COM AND I WILL BE DOING ANOTHER VIDEO ABOUT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MISOGYNIST.

PLEASE LIKE AND SHARE THIS AS THERE ARE MANY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS AND SOME MAY NOT EVEN BE AWARE OF THE ABUSE AND THIS MAY BE ABLE TO HELP THEM TO SEE AND RECOGNIZE THAT IT IS NOT NORMAL AND THAT THEY DESERVE BETTER AND DESERVE TO BE RESPECTED.

IN SAFEGUARDING OUR OWN “I AM” WE ARE RESPECTING AND HONOURING OURSELVES WHICH IS OUR DUTY.

WISHING YOU WELLNESS!

BRENDA

TODAY IS NO. 8 IN THE “I AM” SERIES AND I AM GOING TO BE COVERING WHAT IS A TENDENCY TO DO WHAT WE CALL PERSONALITY MODIFICATION A BIT LIKE THE CAMELION THAT KEEPS ON CHANGING IT’S APPEARANCE TO SUIT OR BLEND INTO IT’S ENVIRONMENT, SOMETIMES JUST TO MAKE IT INVISIBLE, OR SUIT OR CAMOFLAGE IT.

WHAT WE WANT TO DO IS STOP THIS TENDENCY BECAUSE IT DETRACTS FROM YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF. IT TAKES AWAY YOUR ABILITY TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE SOMETIMES WE CAN CHANGE OURSELVES SO MANY TIMES TO SUIT SO MANY DIFFERENT PEOPLE THAT IT CREATES CONFUSION.

AS CHILDREN WE TEND TO CHANGE OURSELVES TO SUIT OUR PARENTS, SIBLINGS, FRIENDS AT SCHOOL, TEACHERS AND EVENTUALLY AS WE GET OLDER, OUR COLLEAGUES AND PARTNERS WHAT THIS DOES IS STOPS US FROM UNDERSTANDING AND CONNECTING SOLIDLY INTO THE KNOWLEDGE OF SELF. WHO WE GENIUNELY AND SINCERELY ARE THE PURE ESSENCE OF OUR PERSON.

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT WHEN WE ENTER INTO A RELATIONSHIP THAT THE PERSON THAT FALLS IN LOVE WITH US, FALLS IN LOVE WITH OUR REAL AUTHENTIC SELF THAT THIS IS WHAT IS ON DISPLAY. WE TEND TO CREATE A PERSONA WHICH LOOKS VERY NICE AND ACTS VERY WELL AND IS VERY ATTRACTIVE IN MANY WAYS BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY WE CAN’T SUSTAIN THAT AND THIS IS WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP STARTS TO CRUMBLE BECAUSE THE PERSON THAT IS NOW BEING MANIFESTED IS THE AUTHENTIC SELF OR PART OF THE AUTHENTIC SELF IF WE ARE NOT FULLY CONNECTED.

WHEN WE ARE INTERACTING WITH OUR WORLD IT NEEDS TO BE FROM THAT SPACE OF WHO WE WERE BORN TO BE THAT GENUINE AUTHENTIC SELF. WE NEED TO LEARN TO LOVE THAT AUTHENTIC SELF SO WE WON’T WANT TO ADD ON TO OR TAKE AWAY FROM IT BECAUSE IN DOING THIS WE WOULD BE SEPARATING OURSELVES FROM OUR BLUEPRINT AND CREATING A PERSONA THAT IS NOT REAL – LIKE AN ILLUSION. EVENTUALLY THE MASK HAS TO DROP AS WE CAN’T SUSTAIN THE PERSONA AND THIS WILL THEN CREATE A RIFT IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR FRIENDS, FAMILY, COLLEAGUES AND WITH OUR PARTNERS.

LEARN TO LOVE THAT PERSON AND JUST BE THAT PERSON AND DISPLAY THAT PERSON IN A WAY THAT IS SINCERE AND THE ONES THAT DO LOVE AND RESONATE WITH YOU WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU AND WILL WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND WILL WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU AND ENJOY BEING WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND THEY CAN FEEL THAT. IT COMES ACROSS AS AUTHENTIC AND GENUINE AND THIS IS WHAT IS REALLY ATTRACTIVE.

THAT IS WHAT IS THE MAGNETIC FORCE THAT DRAWS INTO YOUR ENVIRONMENT PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE NOT FOR A MANUFACTURED PERSONA OR A CREATION OF YOUR OWN IMAGINATION THAT YOU THINK PEOPLE ARE WANTING TO BE.

WE TEND TO DO THIS FROM VERY YOUNG BUT EVENTUALLY AS WE GET OLDER AND MATURE, WE RECOGNIZE THE IMPORTANCE OF JUST BEING OURSELVES – IT TAKES AWAY A LOT OF THE TENSION AND STRESS AND YOU CAN JUST BE MORE CALM IN DISPLAYING WHO YOU ARE.

WE ARE ALL UNIQUE, JUST LIKE OUR FINGERPRINTS. YOU GET SOME WHO ARE GREGARIOUS AND SOME WHO ARE VERY OUTGOING AND HAVING VERY BIG PERSONALITIES AND YOU HAVE SOME WHO ARE SHY AND MORE INHIBITED AND THAT’S OKAY! JUST BE YOURSELF AND LOVE BEING YOURSELF AND YOU WILL FIND THOSE WHO GRAVITATE TOWARDS YOU AND ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU ARE THOSE WHO ON A DEEP LEVEL RESONATE WITH WHO YOU ARE.

WHEN WE ARE NOT AUTHENTIC, WHO CAN RESONATE WITH US? THE PERSON WE HAVE CREATED IS A SHELL OF A PERSON IT IS NOT REALLY A REAL PERSON, IT IS SOMEONE WHO IS NOT TRUE OR GENUINE AND AT THE END OF THE DAY DOESN’T EVEN EXIST. IT IS VITAL THAT WE RECOGNIZE THIS AND WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO DISPLAY WHO WE REALLY ARE AND BE HAPPY WITH DOING THAT. THIS WAY WE WILL CONNECT WELL AND HAVE GOOD FOUNDATIONS FOR OUR FRIENDSHIPS AND RELATIONSHIPS AND FEEL MUCH MORE SELF RESPECT IN THAT SINCE WE ARE COMING FROM A SPACE OF TRUE, AUTHENTIC BEING.

I HOPE YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS. I WOULD BE VERY APPRECIATIVE IF YOU COULD LIKE IT AND SHARE IT WITH OTHERS AS THERE ARE MANY WHO WOULD BENEFIT BY KNOWING THIS INFORMATION AND RECOGNIZE THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING AUTHENTIC.

THE NEXT VIDEO I WILL BE MAKING WILL BE ABOUT THE “I AM” IN A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP.

CHAT SOON! HAVE A LOVELY DAY!

WISHING YOU WELLNESS!

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THIS IS NO. 7 IN THE “I AM” SERIES AND TODAY I’M GOING TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THE “I AM” IN A RELATIONSHIP.

WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH OURSELVES FIRST AND FOREMOST AND THEN OF COURSE WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING IN OUR WORLD. IF WE ARE NOT FULLY CONNECTED INTO OUR OWN “I AM” THAT IS WHO WE ARE ON A SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL AND PHYSICAL LEVEL, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT IN FACT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR US TO CONNECT PARTICULARLY HEART TO HEART ON AN EMOTIONAL LEVEL TO OTHERS.

WE COULD BE CONNECTING SOCIALLY, OR ON AN INTELLECTUAL LEVEL WITH COLLEAGUES AT WORK BUT WE MAY FEEL LIKE THERE IS SOME AREA WHERE WE ARE ACTUALLY DISCONNECTED SIMPLY BECAUSE WE ARE NOT CONNECTED FULLY TO OUR OWN “I AM”.

WHAT CREATES A DISCONNECT FROM SELF IS A VARIETY OF REASONS – WHAT I FOUND PRIMARILY IS ABUSE – VERBAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL, SEXUAL ABUSE AND PHYSICAL– ALL THESE FORMS OF ABUSE PARTICULARLY WHEN THEY HAPPEN IN A PERSON OR A CHILD WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG, CREATES A DISCONNECT FROM THE BLUEPRINT OF WHO YOU ARE.

IT ALSO TENDS TO CREATE A PSEUDO PERSON THAT IS LIVING LIFE FROM A SATELLITE AREA WHICH MEANS THAT YOU ARE NOT FULLY ENGAGED OR CONNECTED INTO THE BLUEPRINT OF WHO YOU WERE BORN TO BE YOU ARE STILL A PERSON THAT IS FULLY FUNCTIONAL BUT IS NOT FULLY CONNECTED INTO THAT KNOWLEDGE OF SELF.

THE REASON WHY THIS OCCURS IS THAT IT FEELS SAFER FOR THE PERSON TO LIVE IN A ZONE OR A SATELLITE SPACE WHERE THEY CAN IMAGINE ALL SORTS OF WONDERFUL THINGS. THEIR IMAGINERY WORLD OR THE WORLD THAT THEY HAVE CREATED CAN FEEL REALLY SAFE AND LOVELY AND FULL OF PLEASURABLE THINGS WHEN THEIR OWN REALITY IS STARK OR DARK OR UNCOMFORTABLE OR UNPLEASANT.

WHAT HAPPENS IS THOSE CHILDREN WHO GREW UP IN AN AGGRESSIVE HOME OR A HOME WHERE THERE WAS ALCOHOLISM OR WHERE THERE WAS SOME FORM OF VIOLENCE WHETHER DOMESTIC OR SOME FORM OF ABUSE, TEND TO CONTINUE TO LIVE IN THE SATELLITE ZONE.

NOW WHEN THEY ARE WANTING TO CONNECT, LET’S SAY TO A RELATIONSHIP, THEY ARE NOT FULLY CONNECTED TO THEMSELVES SO WHO IS ACTUALLY CONNECTING TO THAT RELATIONSHIP? IT IS THE PSEUDO PERSON, THE PERSON THAT THEY HAVE CREATED THAT IS NOT THE AUTHENTIC PERSON – IT IS A PERSON OF THEIR OWN CREATION – IT IS NOT THE ORIGINAL BLUEPRINT OF WHO THEY WERE BORN TO BE.

I HAVE EVEN HAD MOTHERS WHO SAY THEY CAN’T CONNECT TO THEIR BABIES OR TO THEIR CHILDREN BECAUSE THEY ARE REALLY JUST DISCONNECTED FROM WHO THEY ARE AND THIS OF COURSE WILL HAMPER OR DIMINISH THE OPPORTUNITY OR PROSPECT OF CONNECTING TO THEIR CHILDREN OR CHILD.

WITH A RELATIONSHIP IT IS HARD TO CONNECT TO ANOTHER BEING WHEN YOU ARE NOT CONNECTED TO YOURSELF SO YOU WILL ALWAYS FEEL LIKE THERE IS A BIT OF A DISCONNECT. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU RECONNECT AND FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE WHO THAT AUTHENTIC ORIGINAL PERSON IS.

HAVE SOME INNER DIALOGUE GOING WITH YOURSELF – FIND OUT WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY LIKE AND WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY LOVE AND WHAT IT IS THAT YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT. A LOT OF PEOPLE DON’T KNOW THAT AND CAN’T MAKE DECISIONS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CONNECTED INTO THEIR OWN “I AM”.

THEY CAN’T FORMULATE THEIR OWN OPINIONS AND THIS IS WHY THEY TEND TO BE VERY CONTROLLED THROUGH OR PRESCRIBED TO BY OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS BECAUSE THEY SIMPLY DON’T HAVE THEIR OWN BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CONNECTED INTO THE KNOWLEDGE OF SELF AND THIS MAKES IT VERY DIFFICULT FOR US TO HAVE MEANINGFUL, LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS.

ANOTHER THING THAT DOES CREATE DISCONNECT IS PERSONALITY MODIFICATION SO I WILL BE DISCUSSING THIS IN THE NEXT VIDEO OF THIS SERIES WHICH WILL BE VIDEO NO. 8. I HOPE THAT THIS HAS BEEN HELPFUL TO YOU SO PLEASE LOOK OUT FOR IT, LIKE IT AND SHARE IT. THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE IN DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS TODAY BUT THE KEY IS REALLY QUITE SIMPLE, CONNECT INTO YOURSELF SO YOU CAN CONNECT TO OTHERS.

I HOPE YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS, HAVE A REALLY GOOD DAY AND GOODBYE UNTIL NEXT TIME!

NO.6 IN THE “I AM” SERIES – WHAT IS YOUR VALUE?

HELLO EVERYONE,

TODAY I AM GOING TO WORK WITH THE TOPIC – WHAT IS THE “I AM’S” VALUE? IN OTHER WORDS, WHAT IS YOUR VALUE? IT IS REALLY QUITE SIMPLE  – SINCE WE COME FROM INFINITY AND ARE GOING BACK TO INFINITY, YOUR VALUE IS ACTUALLY INFINITE.

WE DO HAVE AN ASPECT OF OURSELVES THAT IS FINITE AND THAT OF COURSE IS OUR BODY – WHAT IS GUARANTEED IS THAT EACH AND EVERYONE OF US IS GOING TO GO BACK TO THE EARTH WHETHER IN THE FORM OF CREMATION OR BURIAL EACH AND EVERYONE OF US HAS A FINITE BODY AND A FINITE LIFESPAN.

IT IS IMPORTANT TO REALIZE THAT THIS IS NOT ALL THAT WE ARE BECAUSE THAT WOULD BE A TRAGEDY – WE ARE INFINITE, WE COME FROM AN INFINITE SOURCE AND WE ARE GOING BACK TO THAT VERY SAME INFINITE SOURCE. WE COME TO THE EARTH TO HAVE OUR EARTHLY EXPERIENCE WITH INHERENT INFINITE VALUE.

VERY OFTEN WE DON’T RECOGNIZE THIS AND DON’T TREAT OURSELVES IN A WAY THAT HONOURS THIS AND THIS IS WHAT IS VITALLY IMPORTANT, THAT WE RECOGNIZE OUR IMMENSE VALUE OUR IMMENSE SIGNIFICANCE AND OUR UNIQUENESS AND HOW VERY SPECIAL EACH ONE OF US IS REMEMBERING THAT EACH ONE OF US IS LIKE OUR FINGERPRINT. THERE IS ONLY ONE OF YOU, ONLY ONE THAT EVER HAS OR EVER WILL BE OF YOU WHICH MAKES EACH ONE AWESOME AND PHENOMENAL AND WE NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE THIS IN THE WAY IN WHICH WE ARE TREATING OURSELVES AND LIVING OUR LIVES.

WE ALSO NEED TO RECOGNIZE OUR VALUE SO WE CAN BE A GOOD REFERENCING FOR OUR CHILDREN AND FOR GENERATIONS TO COME. IF WE TREAT OURSELVES IN A WAY WHICH IS SELF-HONOURING AND SELF-RESPECTING BECAUSE WE KNOW OUR WORTH AND WE KNOW OUR VALUE AND THAT IS HOW WE WORK WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP AND WITH OUR CAREERS AND WITH EVERY ASPECT OF OUR LIVES IN A WAY THAT IS VERY CONSCIOUS AND MINDFUL OF OUR IMMENSE VALUE AND WORTH, WE WON’T COMPROMISE OURSELVES, OR UNDERSELL OURSELVES OR OVER GIVE OF OURSELVES.

SOME PEOPLE AT WORK WILL GIVE 150% BECAUSE THEY DON’T FEEL THEY HAVE VALUE FOR THE POSITION THEY ARE IN SO THEY OVER GIVE OF THEMSELVES BUT WHAT NEEDS TO BE UNDERSTOOD IS THE PERSON GIVING 80% OR THE ONE GIVING 150% IS PAID EXACTLY THE SAME AMOUNT SO WHAT WOULD IT BE THAT CAUSES SOMEONE TO GIVE AWAY THEIR MOST PRECIOUS RESOURCE OF TIME AND ENERGY AND RESOURCE OF INVESTMENT INTO A CAREER WHERE THEY ARE PUTTING IN 150% AND THAT EXTRA PERCENTILE IS IN NO WAY REWARDED OR RECOGNIZED OR ACKNOWLEDGED BY THE ONES THEY ARE GIVING IT TO?

THIS IS A FORM OF COMPROMISE OR SELF-UNDER VALUING AND A FORM OF MINIMISING OURSELVES. EVEN IN RELATIONSHIPS WE COULD GIVE OURSELVES OR CONNECT TO A PARTNER WHO DOESN’T RESPECT US – DOESN’T TREAT US OR SPEAK TO US WITH RESPECT – DOESN’T TREAT US IN A WAY THAT IS KIND, CARING, CONSIDERATE OR THOUGHTFUL AND NURTURING AND ALL WE ARE DOING IS UNDER VALUING OURSELVES BY BEING IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. THIS IS A CHOICE. EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS A CHOICE WHICH IS ALL BASED ON HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF.

YOU NEED TO CONNECT INTO THE MAGNIFICENCE OF WHO YOU ARE, THE WONDER OF WHO YOU ARE, THE GREATNESS OF WHO YOU ARE THE AWESOMENESS, POWER AND POTENTIAL OF WHO YOU ARE AND OF COURSE THE PURPOSE OF WHO YOU ARE REMEMBERING ALWAYS THAT THIS IS INFINITE.

I HOPE THAT YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS. PLEASE LIKE IT AND SHARE ON YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE THERE MAY BE SOME PEOPLE YOU KNOW, SOMEONE WHO IS CONNECTED TO YOU, YOUR LOVED ONES WHO MAY BE UNDER VALUING THEMSELVES. WHO MAY NOT RECOGNIZE THEIR AWESOMENESS AND HOW MAGNIFICENT THEY ARE AND SO THEY COULD BE COMPROMISING THEMSELVES AND THIS IS A FORM OF DISRESPECT AND LACK OF HONOURING YOU’LL NEVER BE HAPPY WHILE YOU ARE DOING THIS.

IN ORDER TO PROMOTE HAPPINESS WE NEED TO RECOGNIZE OUR VALUE AND TREAT OURSELVES IN A WAY THAT IS TOTALLY AND ABSOLUTELY RESPECTFUL AND IN A WAY THAT IS LOVING AND CARING AND KIND. THIS IS HOW YOU NEED TO TREAT YOUR OWN “I AM”.

I LOOK FORWARD TO CHATTING AGAIN SOON! HAVE AN AWESOME DAY!

WISHING YOU WELLNESS!

BRENDA

THE “I AM” SERIES VIDEO 5 – WHAT IS MY MANDATE?

HELLO EVERYONE,

THIS IS BRENDA, I’M AN EMOTIONAL WELLNESS SPECIALISTS WHO WORKS WITH INDIVUALS WHO ARE HUNGRY FOR CHANGE TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF SUFFERING THROUGH EMPOWERMENT, ENLIGHTENMENT AND ENCOURAGEMENT.

WHAT I’M PASSIONATE ABOUT IS TAKING WELLNESS TO THE WORLD THROUGH TRANSFORMATION VIA SHIFTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS. AS A RESULT I HAVE CREATED A SERIES OF VIDEOS AND THIS IS VIDEO NO.5 AND RELATES TO “WHAT IS MY MANDATE?”.

VERY OFTEN IN LIFE PEOPLE DON’T RECOGNIZE THAT THEY ARE GIVEN A MANDATE – YOU ARE YOUR OWN MANDATE. WHO YOU ARE ON A SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL AND PHYSICAL LEVEL IS WHAT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR FROM CRADLE TO GRAVE.

OF COURSE PEOPLE ARE IN YOUR WORLD BUT NONE OF THESE PEOPLE ARE WITH YOU 24/7, CRADLE TO GRAVE EXCEPT YOURSELF. YOU NEED TO RECOGNIZE THAT RESPONSIBILITY, DUTY, OBLIGATION AND FOCUS NEEDS TO BE ON YOUR OWN “I AM” THIS IS YOUR MANDATE. VERY OFTEN WE ARE TAUGHT AS CHILDREN TO BE CONSCIOUS OF EVERYBODY ELSE AND AS A RESULT AS ADULTS WE ARE OFTEN VERY TAKEN IN BY OR DISTRACTED FROM OUR OWN MANDATE BECAUSE WE ARE FEELING SO RESPONSIBLE FOR, OBLIGATED TO OR DUTY AND HONOUR BOUND TO OTHERS AND WE TEND TO FOCUS ON THEM, ON THEIR LIVES AND ON THEIR “I AM” INSTEAD OF RECOGNIZING THE IMPORTANCE OF FOCUSSING ON OUR OWN.

THIS IS NOT IN A WAY THAT IS SELFISH ALTHOUGH SOMETIMES PEOPLE THINK THIS SOUNDS REALLY SELFISH – THE REALITY IS THAT THIS IS SELF RESPECTING AND SELF HONOURING. WHILST I AM ENCOURAGING YOU TO FOCUS ON YOUR MANDATE, THAT WOULD INCLUDE THOSE WHO ARE ALSO AN EXTENSION OF YOURSELF WHICH WOULD BE YOUR CHILDREN, YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE OR PARTNER. THESE ARE AN EXTENSION OF YOU.

I NEVER PROMOTE ANY FORM OF NARCISSISM OR LIVING LIFE IN A WAY THAT IS SELF ABSORBED TO THE EXCLUSION OF OTHERS. WHEN WE ARE FOCUSED ON AND FEELING RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR OWN “I AM” AND MANDATE, WE THEN FIND THAT SPACE OF HAPPINESS BECAUSE WE ARE RECOGNIZING OUR OWN NEEDS AND LISTENING TO OUR OWN INNER VOICE AND ARE BEING GUIDED BY AND FOCUSED ON OUR OWN PURPOSE IN LIFE AND OUR OWN POTENTIAL AND THIS MAKES US FEEL LIKE WE MATTER IN OUR WORLD.

WE CAN LIVE OUR LIVES IN SUCH A DISTRACTED WAY THAT WE CAN TREAT OURSELVES AS IF WE DON’T EXIST, AS IF WE ARE NOT IMPORTANT AND IN TODAY’S SOCIETY THERE IS A PREVALENCE OF AUTO IMMUNE DISEASE. THIS IS ESSENTIALLY WHERE THE BODY STARTS ATTACKING ITSELF AND OFTEN IT DOES THIS BECAUSE IT DOES NOT RECOGNIZE IT’S OWN EXISTENCE.

IF WE ARE NOT RECOGNIZING OUR OWN EXISTENCE AND RECOGNIZING OUR MANDATE TO OURSELVES, WE CAN BE SETTING OURSELVES UP FOR THINGS THAT ARE NOT CONNECTED INTO WELLNESS. IT IS THEREFORE VITAL THAT YOU ARE HONOURING YOUR MANDATE, THAT YOU ARE CONSCIOUS OF YOUR MANDATE AND ALIGNED WITH YOUR MANDATE. WHEN YOU ARE DOING THAT YOU WILL FEEL HAPPIER, YOU WILL FEEL RESPECTED BY YOURSELF AND THIS WILL REFLECT OUT INTO HOW YOU INFLUENCE YOUR WORLD.

REMEMBER ALWAYS, PARTICULARLY IN THE HOME ENVIRONMENT, AS PARENTS WE ARE THE ONES THAT OUR CHILDREN REFERENCE FROM SO WHEN WE ARE TOO CAUGHT UP WITH OTHER PEOPLE’S STORIES AND OTHER PEOPLE’S SAGAS AND DRAMAS AND FEELING RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYBODY ELSE TO THE EXCLUSION OF OURSELVES WE START TO FEEL A LITTLE RAGGED OR DEPLETED AND THEN WE START TO BE REACTIVE AND GET FRUSTRATED AND IRRITATED AND OFTEN THE ONES THAT BEAR THE BRUNT OF THAT ARE THOSE NEAREST AND DEAREST TO US.

IT IS VITAL THAT YOU RECOGNIZE YOUR OWN MANDATE AND THAT YOU TREAT YOURSELF IN A WAY THAT IS CONSCIOUS – MINDFUL OF YOUR OWN DESIRES, NEEDS, ASPIRATIONS AND YOUR OWN PURPOSE IN LIFE. THIS IS WHAT BRINGS HAPPINESS AND THIS IS WHAT THEN EMINATES FROM YOUR LIFE AND SPILLS OVER INTO YOUR WORLD AND THOSE AROUND YOU ENJOY THE BENEFIT OF IT SO THIS IS NOT SELFISH, IT IS SELF HONORING AND SELF RESPECTING AND AT THE END OF THE DAY EVERYBODY LOVES BEING AROUND YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE A HAPPY PERSON LIVING YOUR LIFE FROM A HAPPY SPACE.

I HOPE THAT YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS VIDEO AND IF YOU HAVE, PLEASE LIKE IT AND SHARE IT YOU NEVER KNOW IF SOMEBODY THAT YOU ARE CONNECTED TO IN SOME WAY THAT CAN HEAR THIS MESSAGE AND RECOGNISE THAT THEY NEED TO FOCUS BACK ON WHO THEY ARE – FOCUS BACK ON THEIR LIFE’S JOURNEY AND THE CHOICES THEY ARE MAKING BECAUSE ULTIMATELY WE ARE ALL RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR CHOICES AND THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEM.

Hello Everyone, 

Today’s a new day and so this means a new video. Today I’m going to cover the topic “Who is dictating the terms of your existence.” The responsibility of your existence is actually yours and you need to take ownership of that and you need to be conscious of how you are spending your time in your world.

Often people are being dictated to by others, they are being projected onto by having other people’s opinions projected onto them, their belief systems and feeling prescribed to by others. The only one that can actually stop that is you. You need to be able to recognize when you are being manipulated by others, when you are being intimidated by others or prescribed to by others because at the end of your life’s journey you cannot turn around and blame anybody else because you didn’t spend you life in a way that felt honouring and respectful of yourself. That was your journey, that was your job and it was your responsibility.

Sometimes in our world we find that we have people that don’t really contribute to our existence in a meaningful way but we allow ourselves to tolerate them because we feel obliged to them, duty or honour bound to them, we feel like we owe them something or feel indebted to them so we need to look at that, recognize it and deal with it.

Some people in our world are actually toxic – they undermine us, degrade us, minimize us or even fob us off at times and makes us feel like we are not important. They don’t hear us, they don’t regard us, they don’t respect us and unless you tell them that that is how you are feeling they don’t know. I often say that no one in this world is a mind reader so you have to deal with it and address it and let then know how you feel.

I also say that all relationships so that includes the relationship with each and every person in your world and of course it also includes your career and your relationship with anything really. If there is no return on your investment because within a friendship or relationship, you are investing your time, your energy and your personal resources and unless there is some form of return on your investment, otherwise your investment actually has no value so you need to look at your statement of abe very happy tng dictated to by others, they are being projected onto by having other people’s opinions projected onto them, their belief systems and feeling prescribed to by others. The only one that can actually stop that is you. You need to be able to recognize when you are being manipulated by others, when you are being intimidated by others or prescribed to by others because at the end of your life’s journey you cannot turn around and blame anybody else because you didn’t spend you life in a way that felt honouring and respectful of yourself. That was your journey, that was your job and it was your responsibility.

Sometimes in our world we find that we have people that don’t really contribute to our existence in a meaningful way but we allow ourselves to tolerate them because we feel obliged to them, duty or honour bound to them, we feel like we owe them something or feel indebted to them so we need to look at that, recognize it and deal with it.

Some people in our world are actually toxic – they undermine us, degrade us, minimize us or even fob us off at times and makes us feel like we are not important. They don’t hear us, they don’t regard us, they don’t respect us and unless you tell them that that is how you are feeling they don’t know. I often say that no one in this world is a mind reader so you have to deal with it and address it and let then know how you feel.
I also say that all relationships so that includes the relationship with each and every person in your world and of course it also includes your career and your relationship with anything really. If there is no return on your investment because within a friendship or relationship, you are investing your time, your energy and your personal resources and unless there is some form of return on your investment, otherwise your investment actually has no value so you need to look at your statement of account.

This is a little bit like a bank balance when you are investing money into a bank account, if every time you look at your bank statement there is just the amount of money you put in there is no return on it, it is pointless investing in that bank. You have the choice of what you can do – you can either go to see the bank manager and tell him how you are feeling that there is something wrong here or you can close your account and open up another account. It is the same with friendships – very often we can find ourselves in a friendship or relationship with people that are just takers.

They don’t know how to give and we can tend to be over givers and what this creates is that we tend to under receive. When we give too much we tend to get too little. The only one that can stop that from happening is you because you are the one that is monitoring it. You are the one that knows what is happening so you need to be the one to take responsibility for addressing that and making changes so that you can feel that the people in your world and whatever is happening in your world, your career or whatever it is is actually contributing to your existing in a meaningful way.

At the end of the day when you are very on to it, aware of it and conscious of it this helps you to make those changes and adjustments which ultimately brings in peace, loving relationships and it also brings in joy and that is ultimately what we are all looking for in our lives is joy. We want to feel joyful – full of joy. We can’t live in joy because joy is not a frequency that we can reside in but it is a frequency that we can connect to on a regular basis and that is what you want to be able to do – connect into joy on a regular basis.

If you have enjoyed this video I would appreciate it very much if you would pass it on, share it on Facebook with any family and friends or any other form of social media or if you would like to have a one on one session with me, I would be happy for you to contact me via Facebook or on my wellnessonsteroids Facebook page or alternatively on [email protected] and you can of course visit and look at my other website: bodytalkwa.com.au – I look forward to hearing from you and if you have any questions or topics you would like me to discuss, I would be very happy to take cognizance of that. I hope you have a lovely day.

Wishing you wellness!
Brenda

THE “I AM” SERIES – ARE YOU YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND OR WORST ENEMY?

TODAY IS THE THIRD PART IN THE “I AM” SERIES AND WE ARE GOING TO DEAL WITH ARE YOU YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND OR WORST ENEMY?

FIRST OF ALL WHO IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR WORLD? SOME PEOPLE SAY IT IS MY CHILDREN OR MY HUSBAND OR ITS MY FAMILY BUT THE REAL AND TRUE ANSWER SHOULD ALWAYS BE – IT IS ME.

THIS IS NOT BECAUSE OF BEING SELFISH BUT IT IS FROM RECOGNIZING THAT WITHOUT YOU, YOU HAVE NO WORLD SO THAT IS WHY YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR OWN WORLD. YOU HAVE TO TREAT YOURSELF AS IF YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON AND OF COURSE THAT DOESN’T MEAN TO THE EXCLUSION OF ALL ELSE – IT DOESN’T MEAN IN A NARCISSISTIC OR SELFISH WAY – IT MEANS IN A SELF RESPECTING AND SELF HONORING WAY IN WHICH YOU RECOGNIZE THAT YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS YOURSELF.

YOU RECOGNIZE THAT YOU NEED TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF THE CHOICES YOU MAKE AND THE WAY YOU WORK WITH YOUR WORLD. IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU INNER DIALOGUE WHEN YOU ARE DEALING WITH YOURSELF AND SPEAKING WITH YOURSELF IS A LOVING DIALOGUE. IS ONE BASED IN CARE AND INTEREST AND RECOGNIZER YOUR OWN IMPORTANCE AND SIGNIFICANCE IN YOUR OWN WORLD.

THAT YOU TREAT YOURSELF KINDLY AND LOVINGLY AND GENTLY BECAUSE IF WE ARE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY AND TREAT OURSELVES HARSHLY AND BRUTALLY AND CRUELLY OR BULLY OURSELVES, THIS CREATES ANXIETY AND FEAR IN OUR WORLD AND TAKES AWAY ANY POTENTIAL JOY THAT WE COULD FEEL BECAUSE WE HAVE THIS INNER TOXIC VOICE THAT IS UNKIND AND TREATS US IN A DISRESPECTFUL AND DISHONORING WAY.

SOMETIMES THAT VOICE CAN SIMPLY BE THE ECHOE OF ANOTHER VOICE IT COULD BE THE ECHOE OF YOUR MOTHER’S VOICE OR THE ECHOE OF YOUR FATHER’S VOICE THAT USED TO SOUND CRITICAL OR JUDGMENTAL OR DEGRADING OR DEMEANING OR INVALIDATING SO THERE ARE MANY REASONS WHY WE COULD HAVE THIS INNER DIALOGUE THAT IS TOXIC BUT WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT WE HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THIS TOXIC DIALOGUE AND DISCONNECT FROM THE ECHOE OF OLD VOICES AND OLD EXPECTATIONS AND PROJECTIONS THAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN FOISTED UPON US OR PRESCRIBED TO US AS WE WERE GROWING UP AND WE NEED TO LISTEN FOR AND RESPOND TO OUR OWN INNER VOICE.

IF OUR OWN INNER VOICE IS ACTUALLY NEGATIVE AND TOXIC WE NEED TO ADDRESS THAT AND ASK OURSELVES WHY WE ARE BEING SO UNKIND TO OURSELVES AND WHY DO WE TREAT OURSELVES WITH SUCH A LACK OF LOVE? FIND OUT WHAT IT IS AND THEN DETERMINE WITHIN YOURSELF AND MAKE A DECLARATION TO YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE GOING TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF IN A WAY THAT IS RESPECTFUL AND IN A WAY THAT IS LOVING AND CARING AND KIND AS IF YOU WERE YOUR BEST FRIEND.

TRY TO SAY THINGS TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WOULD SAY TO YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. WHEN YOU HAVE THAT INNER DIALOGUE THAT IS HEALTHY, CARING, UPLIFTING AND ENCOURAGING AND INSPIRING OUR WHOLE WORLD FEELS REALLY DIFFERENT. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO LISTEN OUT FOR AND BE MINDFUL OF AND CONSCIOUS OF WHAT YOU ARE SAYING TO YOURSELF – WHAT MESSAGES YOU ARE GIVING TO YOURSELF.

I HAD SOMEBODY COMING INTO MY CLINIC RECENTLY AND SHE WAS REALLY UPSET WITH HERSELF AND VERY UNHAPPY WITH HERSELF BECAUSE SHE WEIGHED 5 KILOS MORE THAN SHE WANTED TO WEIGH. I NEEDED TO POINT OUT TO HER THAT THE DIFFERNCE BETWEEN HAPPINESS AND UNHAPPINESS TO HER WAS JUST 5 KILOS AND IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT LOGICALLY IT DOESN’T MAKE MUCH SENSE.

WHY WOULD WE BERATE OURSELVES, BE UNKIND TO OURSELVES AND PUNISH OURSELVES AND CRITICAL AND JUDGEMENTAL OF OURSELVES BECAUSE OF A MERE 5 KILOGRAMS? IT CAN BE SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS THAT WHICH CAN INTERFERE WITH THE HEALTHINESS OR WELLNESS BETWEEN THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN “I AM” AND THIS OF COURSE IS GOING TO INFLUENCE HOW YOU AFFECT YOUR WORLD BECAUSE IF YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF, YOU WILL BE HAPPY WITH YOUR WORLD.

IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY WITH YOURSELF YOU ARE GOING TO BE PUTTING OUT NEGATIVE VIBES AND YOU ARE GOING TO BE DRAWING INTO YOUR EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE PEOPLE, NEGATIVE SITUATIONS AND NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES. IT IS THEREFORE VITAL THAT YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF AND HAVE THIS REALLY KIND AND GENEROUS AND GENTLE INNER DIALOGUE THAT YOU CAN ATTRACT INTO YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES THINGS THAT YOU REALLY WANT – THINGS THAT ARE GOING TO MAKE YOU FEEL THAT LIFE IS A HAPPY SPACE AND I LOVE LIVING LIFE.

SO IF YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS LITTLE VIDEO WHICH IS ONE OF THREE IN THE SERIES WHICH COVER DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF THE “I AM” AND WE ARE GOING TO DO MORE AFTER THIS, PLEASE JUST LIKE AND SHARE THIS. YOU NEVER KNOW THERE MAY BE SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT JUST NEEDS TO HEAR SOMETHING THAT WILL RESONATE WITH THEM AND HELP THEM TO SEEE THEMSELVES A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY AND SEE THEIR WORLD A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY AND PERHAPS FEEL BETTER WITHIN THEMSELVES WHICH IS WHAT WE ARE TRYING TO HELP TO ACHIEVE HERE IS TO HELP PEOPLE TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES AND ABOUT THEIR LIFE IN GENERAL.

HOW YOU DEFINE YOURSELF

Hello Everyone,

This is number Two in the Series of Videos I am making. Yesterday I spoke to you about your “I Am” and how significant you are to yourself and today I am going to speak to you about how you define yourself to yourself. This is very important because how we define ourselves to ourselves either sends out a positive or negative message to the world. 

Remember always what you are projecting the world is reflecting back to you so if you define yourself for instance as “I am lazy”, “I am stupid”, “I am lonely”, “I am depressed” the world is reflecting and giving back to you negative people and life’s experiences and so what you are attracting into your life are things you really don’t want.

You want to bring into your world things that make you feel happy and buoyant and inspired so the way to do that is to describe yourself in a way that is positive, remember you are a spiritual being you are just having an earthly experience so you are actually infinite. Keep on telling yourself “I am Infinite”, “I have infinite power”, “I have infinite opportunities”, “I have infinite potential” and of course, always “I have infinite purpose”.

Tell yourself “I am awesome”, “I am phenomenal”, I am absolutely fabulous” and as a result when you are putting out these positive words attached to yourself you are going to bring in to yourself positive situations, positive people and positive life experiences and this is going to make you feel like life is a happy space and a happy place so it is really vital that you go inward and look inside and look at the words that you are using to describe yourself. Are they positive or are they negative?

Do they elevate you, do they encourage you, do they stimulate you and inspire you or do they invalidate you and bring you down and minimize you and make you feel less than? Each one of us is more than because we are these infinite beings. We have infinite, amazing qualities that we so seldom recognise and we so seldom allow ourselves to actually express.

I hope that this little seed has been sown and will germinate inside of you and produce some beautiful, magnificent flowers and fruit so you can see your life change. I guarantee you that if you start to describe yourself in a more positive and in a more self respecting and self honouring way that your life is going to change significantly.

Have a lovely day and I’ll chat to you again really soon!

THE "I AM" SERIES

THIS IS THE BLUEPRINT OF INFORMATION THAT MAKES UP WHO YOU ARE AS AN INDIVIDUAL. THIS IS WHO YOU ARE ON A SPIRITUAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL LEVEL.

EACH ONE OF US IS VERY DIFFERENT LIKE OUR FINGER PRINT IS. EACH ONE IS UNIQUE, EACH ONE IS SPECIAL, EACH ONE IS SIGNIFICANT – REMEMBER, THAT WITHOUT YOU, YOU HAVE NO WORLD. THIS IS WHY YOU ARE THE MOST SIGNIFICANT PERSON IN YOUR OWN WORLD.

THE KNOWLEDGE THAT MAKES UP WHO YOU ARE IS WHERE YOU WILL FIND YOUR JOY – YOU WILL FIND IT IN THAT SPACE OF KNOWING YOURSELF. IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF AND A LOT OF PEOPLE DON’T, DON’T BE WORRIED ABOUT THAT – I HAVE MANY PEOPLE COMING TO ME WHO REALLY DON’T KNOW WHO THEY ARE.

THINK OF THIS AS A TIME OF SELF DISCOVERY, A TIME OF GETTING TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE. DON’T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE DISTRACTED BY OUTSIDE THINGS LIKE ALWAYS MAKING SURE THAT YOU ARE KEEPING YOURSELF OCCUPIED OR MAKING SURE THAT YOUR MIND IS THINKING ON SOMETHING ELSE OR SOMEONE ELSE OR TAKEN UP WITH SOME SITUATION THAT KEEPS YOUR MENTALLY BUSY BUT TAKE TIME EVERY DAY TO JUST CONNECT INTO THAT KNOWLEDGE OF SELF IN STILLNESS, IN QUIETNESS.

GET TO KNOW YOURSELF BY ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS LIKE WHO AM I? WHERE AM I GOING? WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO ME? WHAT DO I WANT FROM MY LIFE? HOW DO I WANT TO CONTRIBUTE TO OTHER PEOPLE? ALL THESE THINGS ARE VERY IMPORTANT AND WHEN YOU GET TO KNOW YOURSELF, GET TO LOVE YOURSELF.

THE MOST IMPORTANT NATURAL RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE IN THIS LIFE IS THE ONE WITH YOURSELF. THE ONE WHERE YOU LOVE WHO YOU ARE, YOU ARE KIND TO YOURSELF, CARING AND LOVING TOWARDS YOURSELF, CHERISHING OF YOURSELF AND NURTURING, NOURISHING AND GENEROUS WITH YOURSELF.

THESE ARE ALL SIGNS OF SELF LOVE AND IF WE DON’T HAVE THIS SELF LOVE BUT RATHER HAVE A TOXIC INTERNAL DIALOGUE WE ARE REALLY ERODING INTO OUR OWN SELF ESTEEM – MINIMIZING AND INVALIDATING OURSELVES. INSTEAD WE NEED TO BE ENCOURAGING OURSELVES, ACKNOWLEDGING OUR ATTRIBUTES AND ABILITIES – RECOGNIZING OUR WORTH AND IN DOING THIS WE WILL FIND THE PLACE AND THE SPACE OF LOVING WHO WE ARE AND WHEN WE LOVE WHO WE ARE, WE LOVE OUR LIVES.

IT IS IMPORTANT TO LEARN HOW TO LOVE LIFE – HOW TO FIND JOY IN LIFE, HOW TO FIND PEACE IN LIFE AND HOW TO BE GRATEFUL FOR OUR LIVES – LIFE IS A PRECIOUS GIFT AND EACH DAY IS A PRECIOUS GIFT SO LOOK EACH DAY AT WHY YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR LIFE AND WHAT IT IS ABOUT YOU THAT YOU LOVE AND FOCUS ON THAT EVERY DAY.

FIND THAT SPACE OF TRUE JOY THAT IS FOUND INSIDE OF YOU. HAPPINESS IS NOT SOMETHING EXTERNAL – IT IS SOMETHING INTERNAL AND IT WILL BE THERE IN SPITE OF THE EXTERNAL. IT IS THEREFORE VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU FIND THIS SPACE OF HAPPINESS. THIS IS MY PEARL OF WISDOM FOR TODAY AND I HOPE THAT YOU FIND IT HELPFUL AND USEFUL AND THAT IT WILL HELP YOU ALONG YOUR LIFE’S JOURNEY.